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Parenting a teenager is a wild ride, isn't it? There are the good bits and not-so-good ones, but overall, as a parent, I rank the teenage years as pretty freaking awesome!
The thing is in this stage of their lives, and where we are in ours, we tend to get lost in the chaos of everyday life. We see our teens in passing sometimes, barely getting a word in or having time to truly catch up with them. And at the back of our minds, we know that we don't have much time with them before they are off to college and experiencing life on their own, outside of the home we've comfortably had them in for so many years.
Sometimes we lose sight that our teens are having a tough time, struggling, juggling between school, their changing bodies and emotions, their social surroundings, expectations and so much more.
In the chaos and the constant tug-of-war we have with them, we lose sight that they need us more now than ever. To be seen, to be heard, to be appreciated, and to be loved. We lose sight because sometimes they don't make us feel like they need us. They push us away. But in actual fact even if they push away, we shouldn't just walk away. The more they pull away, the more we have to stand our ground and try, try harder.
The communication with our teenagers shouldn't stop just because they start grunting at us, give one-word answers, or hide behind their closed doors. The times when they actually spend time with us, however little, whether in the car or at the dinner table or the occasional conversation in the kitchen should be made into opportunities to remind them how much they are loved and that you are there for them for anything.
What you say and the phrases we use in these moments can make a world of difference in our relationships with our teenagers. Our teens need a stable anchor and we can be that for them.
By saying the right things, we're not just communicating, we're building a foundation of trust, love, and understanding.
13 Phrases For Teens
Parenting teenagers is like embarking on an unpredictable adventure. One moment, they're our little angels, and the next, they're spreading their wings and testing boundaries. Amidst all the highs and lows, our words become the glue that binds us together.
Here are 13 phrases for teens that you can say, that are not just a whole bunch of words, but bridges that connect us with them on a deeper level. Phrases that foster understanding, love and trust.
01. "I don’t have the answers to that, but we can find out together."
Our teens are naturally curious beings, and they often come to us with questions we can't answer. Instead of feeling pressured to know it all, let's embrace our vulnerability and offer to explore solutions together. This phrase not only fosters teamwork but also shows our teens that it's okay not to have all the answers.
02. "I’m sorry."
As parents, we strive to be perfect, but the truth is, we're only human. We make mistakes, we lose our patience, and sometimes, we hurt our teens unintentionally. In those moments, a sincere apology can go a long way. It demonstrates humility, accountability, and most importantly, unconditional love.
03. "I love watching you do the things you love."
There's something magical about seeing our teens light up with passion and enthusiasm. Whether it's playing a musical instrument, painting, or pursuing a hobby, or a sport, take a moment to express your genuine joy in witnessing their happiness. Let them know that their interests and passions matter to you.
04. "It’s okay to say no to something, even to adults."
In a world that often pressures our teens to conform, empower them to stand their ground. Let them know that it's okay to say no – whether it's to peer pressure, unrealistic expectations, or even well-meaning adults. Teach them to trust their instincts and set boundaries that honor their values and beliefs.
05. "Do you know I love you just the way you are?"
Our teens are bombarded with messages about how they should look, act, and be. In the midst of this, remind them that they are loved unconditionally, just the way they are. Whether they're tall or short, introverted or extroverted, assure them that your love knows no bounds.
06. "Our family wouldn’t be the same without you."
Teenagers often struggle with feelings of inadequacy and belonging. Reassure them that they're an integral part of the family unit – their quirks, their laughter, their presence enriches your lives in ways you couldn't imagine.
07. "I love hearing your thoughts and perspective on life."
Our teens are brimming with ideas, opinions, and insights waiting to be shared. Take the time to listen to them – really listen. Show genuine interest in their thoughts and perspectives, and let them know that their voice and thoughts matters.
08. "I heard this today and thought about you."
It's the little things that count, isn't it? Whether it's a funny meme, an interesting article, or a heartwarming quote, sharing something that reminded you of your teen shows them that they're always on your mind, even when you're apart.
09. "It’s okay to be sad. I’m here to listen when you’re ready."
Life can be tough, and our teens aren't immune to its challenges. Let them know that it's okay to feel sad, angry, or frustrated. Assure them that you're there to lend a listening ear whenever they're ready to talk – no judgment, no pressure, just unconditional support.
10. "Even when you’ve hit a rough patch, I’m here for you."
Teenagers face their fair share of ups and downs – academic pressures, peer conflicts, heartbreaks, you name it. Remind them that no matter how rough the road gets, you'll always be there to walk alongside them, offering a shoulder to lean on and a hand to hold.
11. "I am a safe space for you, and it will always be."
Building trust is key to fostering open communication with our teens. Let them know that they can confide in you without fear of judgment or reprisal. Your love is a safe space, you are a safe space for them.
12. "I'm so proud of you."
Amidst the chaos of adolescence, our teens often seek validation and recognition for their efforts and achievements. By saying this we're affirming their hard work, perseverance, and growth. Whether it's acing a test, showing kindness to others, or overcoming a personal challenge, this phrase highlights their strengths and encourages them to continue striving for greatness. It instills confidence and self-belief, reinforcing the idea that their efforts are valued and appreciated.
13. "I not only love you, but I really like you."
Lastly, remind your teen that your love runs deeper than blood ties. Let them know that you genuinely enjoy their company, cherish their unique personality, and feel blessed to have them in your life.
And there you have it – 13 phrases that can transform your relationship with your teen.
Parenting isn't always easy, but with love, patience, and a sprinkle of these magic words, you can let your teen know that they are always supported and you've got their back. No matter how far they go, how hard they fall or how old they get.
So, go ahead – shower your teen with love, affirmation, and understanding. After all, the greatest gift we can give them is the assurance that they're loved, valued, and cherished, just the way they are.